6 Common Sex Mistakes Women Make

Mistake: Under-Focusing on Yourself

Is your sex life as good as it could be? Are you sure? Experts say even satisfied, sexually confident women don’t always know when they’re making between-the-sheets blunders.

Here are six common mistakes, and the simple ways to remedy each one.

Mistake No. 1: You wait until you’re “in the mood.”

If you put off sex until your brain and body are primed for it, you probably won’t get frisky very often. That’s because many women don’t feel desire until they’re already into the act itself.

“Research shows that foreplay, and even just touching, prompts your body to send a message to your brain that activates sexual interest,” Even if you don’t feel like you’re ready down there, that doesn’t mean you aren’t turned on. “Even younger women may find that they’re not as lubricated as they’d like,”. If this is a problem for you, try using lube during foreplay,

Mistake No. 2: You put your partner’s pleasure first.

Sex is the time to be selfish. Putting all your energy into pleasing your partner doesn’t make you a better lover. It makes you a less fulfilled one, and that can be a downer for both of you.

“Biologically, women are hardwired to put others’ needs first,” “But that instinct can put a damper on your sex life.”

The solution: Slow things down. “Women take longer than men to climax, and often even to get aroused. That’s OK,” “Don’t feel guilty. Your pleasure is a turn-on to your partner.”

It’s equally important to be honest with yourself -- and your partner -- about what works for you. Don’t like a particular position? Speak up. Too tired to get it on at 10 p.m.? Schedule an a.m. sex session instead

Mistake No. 3: Youthink he’s always up for sex.

If he doesn’t want to have sex, or he can’t get an erection, it doesn’t mean he isn’t into you or that he wants another woman.

,Stress exhaustion, and desperation can dull a man’s libido, the same way they can affect a woman’s sex drive,”

Men have a “recovery period” after a climax, and that time usually gets longer as they get older.

Mistake No. 4: You let body image stand between you and good sex.

Want another good reason to love yourself as you are? It improves your love life. Research shows that women with a strong self-image have sex more often, feel more at ease when they’re naked with their partner, and even have more orgasms than those who don’t feel good about themselves.

The truth is, “the majority of men have a passionate  attraction  for their partners, and are eager to have sex with them,” "They’re not worried about what they [women] are wearing, whether they’ve showered, or if they’ve put on weight.”

If you need a morale boost, don’t put yourself down and wait for your partner to cheer you up with a compliment. Instead, ask positive questions like, “Do you think you’d enjoy having sex with me tonight?” or, “What do you think the sexiest part of me is?”

Mistake No. 5: You don’t use your imagination.

Couples who have sex regularly are happier and more likely to stay together.

Many women think it’s a betrayal to imagine a different person or scenario, but it’s not. Fantasies trigger desire, which allows you to have a fulfilling sexual encounter with your partner. It’s win-win.”

How to Conceive Twins Naturally

While you will ultimately not be able to control how many babies your pregnancy produces, there are a few steps you can take which may increase your chances of having twins.

§  Increase your folic acid intake- Taking a folic acid supplement has been found to increase a woman's chance of conceiving twins. This supplement also helps prevent neural tube defects when combined with a multi-vitamin which helps ensure that any babies that you conceive will be healthy and less likely to suffer from defects.

§  Eat dairy products and wild yams- Eating dairy products has also been linked to an increase in multiple pregnancies. Women who regularly eat dairy products have been found to be up to five times more likely to give birth to twins than vegan or vegetarian women who did not consumed these products. Some scientists believe that it is not necessarily the dairy products that are increasing these occurrences of multiple pregnancies but the growth hormones that tend to be in milk in countries like the United States.Eating wild yams can also increase your chances of developing twins. Chemicals in the wild yam can over-stimulate the ovaries which can result in more than one egg being dropped during ovulation. This may be why the likelihood of having twins is more likely in African cultures which frequently consume this substance as part of their ethnic diet.

§  Use birth control pills- Birth control pills can also play a role in helping you conceive twins. When women stop using birth control pills it takes some time for the body to find its natural rhythm again, which can cause the body to have a higher hormone flux than normal during the first one or two cycles a woman experiences. If you manage to conceive during this time, there is a much larger chance that two eggs will be available in the uterus, which can lead to the conception of fraternal twins.

§  Increase the length of breastfeed - If you have already had one child you can increase the length in which you breastfeed if you want to increase your chances of having twins later. Studies have shown that women who are breastfeeding while they try to conceive are nine times more likely to conceive twins with their next pregnancy.

§  Have more children- Having many children also increased the chances that you will have twins. The more times you become pregnant, the easier it is for your body to produce multiple eggs during ovulation, which can increase your chances of conceiving twins.

• Location and timing of birth- Location and timing may also seem to have something to do with the likelihood that twins will develop. In the United States, those living in Nebraska, New Jersey, Connecticut and Massachusetts are more likely to have multiple births than those living in warmer states. The number of twins born each year also increases in July and decreases in January. Scientists believe this might have something to do with the amount of daylight available in these locations and time periods, which can increase the secretion of the Follicle Stimulating Hormone.